Excerpt About Grandiose Self
No. There’s no room for reality and no room for other people’s perspectives. It’s a very rigid position. The grandiose self is very rigid, very brittle, and that rigidity makes it vulnerable. Grandiosity is mainly a defense against deep hurt and vulnerability. This is the same hurt and vulnerability that the ego ideal hides, which is the hurt of the absence of self and value. One way people become grandiose is having inadequate external guidance in childhood. To survive they had to believe they knew who they were and what to do, because they had no support from the outside. This means that breaking through the grandiosity will bring out the insecurity of having no support, the sense that there is nothing there to help.