Excerpt About Preferences
Usually we believe that if we get what we want, what the personality wants, we will be fulfilled. But fulfillment is ultimately the freedom from desires. What I am saying is that being oneself, being one’s essence, free from the desires of the personality, is the fulfillment. It’s not that you want your essence so you can get something else. It’s not that you want your essence so that you’ll get rich or fall in love and live happily ever after. It’s not that your essence will enable you to have children, do special things, or be famous. If this is your attitude, the dissatisfaction and the suffering will continue because you are not seeing where fulfillment lies. When I say this principle is absolute, I mean just that. It is absolute in the way a physical law is absolute. It has nothing to do with your opinions or your preferences. That’s the way reality is; it is the truth. But we try to hedge that truth, try to change it, try to show that it’s not so. What stops us from understanding and accepting this truth is lack of objectivity. We don’t see things as they are. That is the main obstacle—our lack of objective perception. We see things in ways that are totally dictated by our unconscious, which means that we don’t see things as they are at all, or we see them always clouded and unclear. We see things according to our fears and desires; we see what we expect to see. What we see, in fact, is only our unconscious projected onto the world. We don’t see the world as it really is, we don’t see others as they really are, and we don’t see ourselves. Because of that, our motivation, our direction, is crooked, out of alignment. Our orientation is wrong. We try to orient ourselves according to our dreams and opinions, which are all conditioned by the unconscious.