Excerpt About Sexuality
And this intimacy can go a step further. Let’s consider the situation in which an erotic relationship includes both the divine and the sexual dimensions. Here, desire within the love relationship is for sexual intimacy, and eros becomes explicitly sexual: “I want to be close and intimate, but I also want to interact physically. And I want to interact physically in a very particular way. We may start with a hug, but that is only the beginning. And I don’t want to just wrestle!” Sexuality adds another dimension to the interaction. One wants to express pleasure in the other person in a physically intimate way. There is a desire to experience pleasure together, giving pleasure and receiving pleasure in return, but including the body in addition to all that we have described divine eros to be. Divine eros has inherent in it a selfless love; the desire is not just to experience pleasure, it is also to give pleasure. When you love somebody, you want her to feel good, you want her to be happy, you want her to experience enjoyment, happiness, satisfaction. In divine eros, experiencing satisfaction is also giving satisfaction. And by giving satisfaction, we experience satisfaction. The love is so dynamic that there is no difference between giving and taking, between love and desire. This is what true divine love means. This giving and receiving of pleasure can happen in all relationships. When you love someone, you always have some desire for the other to have a good time and to be happy. In the intimacy of a love partnership, however, the erotic usually becomes more explicitly sexual. This is divine eros with the added richness of the sexual dimension.